When you are a consultant and service provider, sometimes it’s really hard to say no. In an earlier blog post, we talk about giving oneself permission to leave. It’s clearly been an issue for me. And boundary setting is a problem for many people I’ve spoken to.
There is something to be said for the natural and empirical belief in oneself. Whereas many folks I know tend to be self-doubters, I know just as many who would never question that they were ever wrong. The human condition is fascinating to me, and especially now as a mom. When I say no to my child and implement corrective behavior, am I immediately creating a self-doubter?
So what can we do now, long after our own personal childhood experiences are behind us and our parents have allegedly ruined us. How do we move forward with unwavering confidence?
For me, it starts with setting small, achievable personal boundaries. As I attain more and more time for my family and myself, I place more gratitude in being together, and really really lucky. And then it’s like an addiction. I want more time.
It’s getting easier to say no. I’m still struggling, but I AM getting better!
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