How are you with conviction? Are you someone who has extreme beliefs based on past failures? As humans, we can learn from mistakes. AND we can evolve to the point where the same trials might turn into something bigger and better with one minor pivot. It’s not always ALL or NOTHING.
Your mission, if you choose to accept it: Open your perspective so it can balance you. Remember that life is not ALL or NOTHING. It’s a lot of in-between. Be okay with nuance and shades of purple.