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What should I assume when a workgroup is assembled which excludes you when your assignment is the topic of the workgroup?
-JB
Agent S1 says:
Hi JB –
First take a deep breath: This is a tough situation and there are probably lots of “what ifs” flying around in your head. Then I’d advise you not to make any assumptions. If you want why you were excluded (and you may not, see Agent N’s response below), you’ll need to approach the workgroup (or those in charge of setting it up). Try to find a logical and non-threatening way to do this, like “I heard you’re working on XXX topic. Is there any way we can combine resources or help out? Because this is really similar to the work I’m going on XXX, and it would be great if we could work together somehow.” The response you get will help you get at the truth.
Agent N1 says:
Assume nothing. There could be valid reasons that you were not included in the workgroup. I’m sure you can think of some. One way forward is to ask the organizer of the workgroup if you can provide input or support to the workgroup. This will show that you are both a professional and a team player. Prior to approaching the organizer, however, consider how you will feel if they say no. Your answer to this question will guide you in deciding whether or not you should ask. If you decide not to move forward in this way (i.e. you don’t want to hear a “no, you cannot provide input”), and the situation is bothering you, then you might consider asking your supervisor or a trusted colleague why you were not included in the workgroup. Good luck!
Agent M1 says:
J.B., I agree with Agents N and S that the key is to give these folks the benefit of the doubt.
But, turning this argument on its head for a second, let’s assume for a moment that there is foul play – or at least a power play with one of your colleagues. Although best to still act positive and to show you’ve made no assumptions when approaching the issue, it’s also good to know your next four moves on the chess board — should this be a pattern. IF this is a test of strength and will, then keep your cool and, I know it’s hard to do, but try to refrain from showing or expressing even the slightest hint of fear, uncertainty or anger – not even to your closest ally or confidant (unless they are outside of the workplace).Trust your instinct and then know that you can’t fix a problem as much as you can fix or control your reaction to that problem. Step one is to show you are trustworthy and likable even under the most trying circumstances.
Some other agents and readers out there may have great suggestions as well…
What would you do if you were J.B.? — please comment below!
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