What’s your definition of narcissism?
According to Wikipedia: Narcissism is the pursuit of gratification from vanity or egotistic admiration of one’s own attributes.
I believe we all have narcissistic leanings. Self-preservation tends to make us so. And then other factors can contribute like doting parents or partners and a lot of entitlement.
Alternatively, abandonment can also turn us into victim-narcisissts when we are struggling to find normalcy through pain. Abandonment in any form – being dumped by a lover or by an employer – can feel like assault and create the need to talk and process over and over until… we make every single conversation about ourselves. Because what’s on our mind, our pain, matters most.
And so, there are watch outs for this behavior when we start to recognize our patterns.
Your mission, if you choose to accept it: Don’t be a victim. Whether you are a victim of too much doting or dumping, turn your need for feedback into a personal progress report. Check lists are fantastic for providing a sense of accomplishment and reinforcement! And they are a good forum for processing information without dragging someone into your vortex.
Be kind. Be safe. Be appropriate. Now go!
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