Some days I feel bad about myself. The kind of bad where I want to take it out on my partner because he didn’t do something. When in reality, I know I am being unfair or unrealistic. I do want a new basement. I did want a new kitchen before I turned a certain age, […]
#RPCL Log Date April 22, 2017: #BeingHuman
I have two very stubborn children. And I’m kind of proud of the fact that they are determined and resilient! But there is a time when being stubborn becomes a problem. If stubbornness replaces acceptance of new ideas, then it is actually paralyzing. We don’t become more resilient, we become more close-minded. Your mission, if you […]
#RPCL Log Date April 21, 2017: #BeingHuman #ListenWithHeartsMindsEars
Listening, really listening, non-judgmental listening, is really hard to do. If it weren’t such a problem, we wouldn’t have too many versions of the truth, or many many many books and workshops teaching us how to focus our attention and listen better. Your mission, if you choose to accept it: Remember this, we don’t just listen […]
#RPCL Log Date April 20, 2017: #BeingHuman #BeACuriousMentor
Some of the best advice I have received from a friend and mentor recently was that I am not fixing anyone when I’m coaching. I need to remember that everyone I work with is fine and complete human beings on their own. Mentoring is not fixing someone. And it is not one-sided. We benefit and […]
#RPCL Log Date April 19, 2017: #BeingHuman #BeOkayWithBeingWrong
We all want to be right. And we want it so badly, we listen for confirmation of our beliefs to justify how right we are. It’s amazing how many people were shocked when they learned that the recent leader of the country was going to take some healthcare benefits away. What they didn’t realize was […]
#RPCL Log Date April 18, 2017: #BeingHuman #Don’tBeSelectivelyGenerous #BeBroadlyGenerous
Being selectively generous, is not being generous. I can’t tell you how annoyed I get when someone tells me they follow a book (aka the Bible) as if it exonerates judgmental behavior. Somehow this book tells them that they are better than others, and therefore they look down upon others as if they don’t have […]
#RPCL Log Date April 17, 2017: #BeingHuman #GetOutOfYourHead
Sometimes I get so frustrated with head talk. Sure, our inner voice can be powerful and motivational. But… it can also be extremely destructive. If we compare what we have to what we think we should have, we may feel we don’t measure up and start to believe we don’t deserve it. And it spirals […]
#RPCL Log Date April 16, 2017: #BeingHuman #OpenPerspective
How are you with conviction? Are you someone who has extreme beliefs based on past failures? As humans, we can learn from mistakes. AND we can evolve to the point where the same trials might turn into something bigger and better with one minor pivot. It’s not always ALL or NOTHING. Your mission, if […]
#RPCL Log Date April 15, 2017: #BeingHuman #IfStuckGetHelp
I was really struggling on a work thing recently and knew it was a chemistry issue. I needed a guy to help me with this one. Or course, when I pitched the idea of skipping the meeting, he said I couldn’t miss it. But he also helped me to see another perspective and frame the […]
#RPCL Log Date April 14, 2017: #BeingHuman #FocusOntheGoodStuff
Teaming up with folks on projects or in life can be exhilarating at the start. So what happens when the honeymoon is over? I know it can be really hard to move on when something disappoints us. It’s almost like that one minor thing that happened is THE ONLY thing we can see. Your mission, […]
