We were having dinner with friends when I was describing a recent story from a therapist about his clients who are stuck 40-something male (company name here) employees seeking counseling. (You can probably insert software or other companies too, but in his case it was all one software company). They can’t quit. The money is too good. […]
Tag Archives | Coping
#RPCL Log Date May 13, 2017: #BeingHuman #meaningfulrelationships #DontLetLifeGetInTheWay
Yesterday I read a post on social media that one of my dearest soul mates is going into hospice. She has been on the cancer-journey for some time now. A mother just barely 50, she has two beautiful school-aged children and a loving husband who is fiercely standing by her side. This is not a unique […]
#RPCL Log Date March 30, 2017: #BeingHuman #ChooseToLetGo
Whenever I have a nagging thought, I find it hard to shake by just saying to myself “enough!” It’s a problem. I can try my damnedest to be intentional about changing it but I suck at it. Yep. So when I watch my eldest dwell on her thoughts, I totally get it. And I wish […]
Challenging Identity #identitycrisis #culturecrisis
It’s really tough to just get over the election. I’m finding that I am now questioning my value as a female contributor in the workplace. I think that the hateful and dismissive language from our soon-to-be POTUS will leave a Harry Potter lightening bolt on my forehead for a while (maybe forever). From the other […]
Someone Wins and Someone Loses #nomoreparticipationawards #JAJance
I attended a fundraiser on Veteran’s Day where author JA Jance gave a wonderful keynote that included some laughter and tears, and a side remark about the election. It was brilliant, and I’m compelled to try to paraphrase it here. “Dear Millennials, we know you are the generation who received participation awards at every turn. Well I’m sorry […]
Hate Was Given Hope #hatewasgivenhope #aaronsorkin
Surfing through the emotional banter of thousands of FB posts after the election, one re-post stood out for me and continues to replay in my head. It’s Aaron Sorkin’s letter to his daughter, in which he says one simple phrase that zeros in on what Trump has stood for, and why many of us are feeling […]
It’s Nothing a Cookie Wouldn’t Fix #cookiehigh
Today I felt spectacularly hungover. I had two glasses of red wine during a 4-hour business dinner and not enough sleep. I suppose walking the lake this morning with coffee and no hydration wasn’t much help. As I was getting my hair cut this afternoon, looking at my face and exhausted eyes in the mirror, I […]
When Self-Motivation Matters
I had one of those bad days yesterday when I wondered how I was going to stand up, dust off, and try again. It all sounded like a waste of time when I heard myself thinking it. I have incredible drive. I’m constantly networking with people, reading, processing out loud or in writing, and thinking […]
More More More #help #changesucks
I would consider myself a fairly normal professional. One who is self possessed, visionary, mostly calm. So why is it that I have been spying on my children from my front door window during their recess at the new school ? And why is it that I am thrumming internally, even though my calm and quietude exude […]
Lopsided Loyalty
I was scanning my instagram feed when I saw a picture of something that triggered work-anxiety. My past client posted an image and it reminded me of my lopsided loyalty. It’s clear now that it was one way – not balanced. And I was immediately flooded with sadness. Holding back tears, my voice was gruff as […]
