Although a buzzword in the corporate world, Emotional Intelligence is such a rare skill when it’s exercised wholly. Here’s something to think about when you are in a situation of managing or “giving advice”. In this case, don’t offer to fix something. Best to just listen. “Those who are most competent (and there are few […]
50 Ways to Leave your Job
I was driving home from work when the song came on the radio “50 Ways to Leave your Lover”. It starts out: The problem is all inside your head, she said to me. The answer is easy if you take it logically. I’d like to help you in your struggle to be free, there must […]
Tip of the Day Issue 2, Blog… Delete!
My personal manifesto, specifically for managing my emotional intelligence, goes like this. Blog about what’s bothering me, or what is a burning thought or emotion. And then, if the email that triggered the bad feelings is still in my inbox, delete it and wash away the memory. In essence, it’s boiled down to two words. […]
The First Interview
Ever have what feels like a pretty good interview, but you arrive just in time and come out of the rain looking like a wet dog? I don’t think it was a strike against me, and the HR manager offered to show me the bathroom so I could at least try and dry off. I […]
Greg Smith’s Not-So-Unplugged Letter
Greg Smith quit his job very publicly yesterday by writing an op-ed in the New York Times, titled Why I Am Leaving Goldman Sachs. In the article, he describes the current culture as “toxic” and shares his views about how the firm went from being a great place to work to a place he could […]
Forgiveness
Have you ever been told to hire a director to report to you, and then find out later that he’s meant to take your role and you report to him? It happened to me. And I also unknowingly did the same thing to my first employee before it happened to me. It was a non-profit […]
What Matters Most?
Although I’ll share more of my journey about the 3-part plan later on, I want to share one of my “coffee” meetings which might turn into a job interview. Before I share the results, here’s how I am thinking about the job search and my criteria for a good fit. Top four things that matter […]
The Web of Lies
It can be hard to leave your job. Even when you are leaving for all the right reasons. I was in a situation once where I loved my colleagues, my clients and my job, but not my long-term prospects. I needed to get out. But I felt a little guilty leaving everyone behind. I cared about […]
Tip of the Day Issue 1
Sometimes, we just need to give ourselves advice, or hear advice from others. Here’s my internal pep talk for the day. Practice non attachment. Don’t let that voice get inside your head and say “but he’s being a jerk”. Just acknowledge it, and move on.
When All That Glitters is Gone
Sometimes it’s obvious when you need to leave a job. Sometimes it’s less so. For me, there are little hints: I’m no longer picturing myself in the proverbial corner office I’m less patient saying the same thing twice I catch myself sighing Last time this happened to me, I remember asking myself “Why?” I couldn’t pinpoint […]
