We were having dinner with friends when I was describing a recent story from a therapist about his clients who are stuck 40-something male (company name here) employees seeking counseling. (You can probably insert software or other companies too, but in his case it was all one software company). They can’t quit. The money is too good. […]
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#RPCL Log Date May 13, 2017: #BeingHuman #meaningfulrelationships #DontLetLifeGetInTheWay
Yesterday I read a post on social media that one of my dearest soul mates is going into hospice. She has been on the cancer-journey for some time now. A mother just barely 50, she has two beautiful school-aged children and a loving husband who is fiercely standing by her side. This is not a unique […]
#RPCL Log Date April 29, 2017: #BeingHuman #Forgive
You’ve probably told yourself it’s okay to disagree with friends and loved ones. But it ain’t easy. Sometimes we just want to be right, so we decide to get mad and stay mad. This won’t solve anything. Life is too short so forgive. Even if it’s apologizing to yourself for being stubborn about the need […]
#RPCL Log Date April 18, 2017: #BeingHuman #Don’tBeSelectivelyGenerous #BeBroadlyGenerous
Being selectively generous, is not being generous. I can’t tell you how annoyed I get when someone tells me they follow a book (aka the Bible) as if it exonerates judgmental behavior. Somehow this book tells them that they are better than others, and therefore they look down upon others as if they don’t have […]
#RPCL Log Date March 19, 2017: #BeingHuman #DontBeAVictim
What’s your definition of narcissism? According to Wikipedia: Narcissism is the pursuit of gratification from vanity or egotistic admiration of one’s own attributes. I believe we all have narcissistic leanings. Self-preservation tends to make us so. And then other factors can contribute like doting parents or partners and a lot of entitlement. Alternatively, abandonment can also turn us into victim-narcisissts when we are struggling to find normalcy […]
Lopsided Loyalty
I was scanning my instagram feed when I saw a picture of something that triggered work-anxiety. My past client posted an image and it reminded me of my lopsided loyalty. It’s clear now that it was one way – not balanced. And I was immediately flooded with sadness. Holding back tears, my voice was gruff as […]
Cognitive Dissonance at Work
What if your job is to conquer 3rd world problems globally, yet you walk by the same homeless guy every day who’s camped outside your local (U.S.) office? It’s a clear reminder that you have your very own 3rd world problems at home, but the minute you enter the safe haven of a beautifully and expensively designed office […]
Better Human, Better Leader
Ever since a Syfy Network T.V. series came out, “Being Human”, I’ve thought a lot about that theme in life, at work and in leadership (without ever watching the series, sorry Syfy!) Those two words together are poetry to me, synchronous with kindness and humility in the world today, and something in its meaning is lost in the way […]
The Third Act
I was scanning my inbox of TED talks and saw this post on friendship – featuring two long-time actor/friends Jane Fonda and Lily Tomlin. The intro had me hooked. And so I watched the whole thing, intrigued by the message of feminism permeating every part of the discussion. And then the next TED talk came […]
The New Normal
Change is one of the hardest things to manage once we find our rhythm at home and work. We are habit and structure-forming creatures. To me, the very first thing to consider is a shift in perspective. It’s not only about change, it’s about creating the “new” normal. So what does it take to create […]
